Did you know that anytime you have ever been angry you had the perception of “Something unfair is going on here” first? Do 1, 2, 3 with anger and you may feel better fast.
Name the Feeling: Angry
Name the Cause: Something is going on that is unfair to you or someone you care about.
Do a Satisfying Response: Ways to reduce feelings of anger.
Check – was it really unfair? If it was fair, that changes your perspective.
- – Give yourself some cool-down time and reassess the situation; it might be fair.
- – Get other’s perspective on the situation.
- – Listen to the other side.
- – Step back and look at the big picture.
- – Were you in a bad mood or tired and being oversensitive?
- – Sometimes, it just is the way it is, and it’s equally unfair to everyone.
Make fair. Whenever possible, attempt to regain fairness in the situation.
- – Let people know that it seems unfair to you.
- – Talk to someone in charge and tell them about the situation.
- – Stand up for yourself in a fair and caring way.
- – Join a group that stands up for rights.
- – Join with others that feel like you do and get support in your efforts.
Forgive them and move on – real forgiveness reduces the anger.
- – Remember that forgiveness is NOT forgetting what happened.
- – Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you like the person or what they did.
- – Forgiveness has a more positive effect on you than it does on them.
- – Try to understand why they did the unfair thing. This makes forgiveness easier.
- – Realize that most of the time, they wish that they could do better.
- – Forgiveness gives you back your mental and emotional energy for other things.
- – Forgiveness gives you peace of mind when all other things *Taken from Cal Banyan’s The Secret Language of feelings book.
*For more information on how you can get deep forgiveness using hypnosis call our office. Otherwise watch this SHORT VIDEO while you consider it.
